Letting Go of the Past Part 2

What to Do about Unfinished Business

 If you want to move past the things in the past that are keeping you stuck—your unfinished business—you will need to acknowledge them and tell the truth about them. The Emotional Freedom Technique, Neuro-Linguistic-Programming,Hypnotherapy, and other techniques can be powerful tools to use in cleaning up Unfinished Business.

Here are some places to look for your unfinished business: 

1. Risks I should have taken

2. People I treated badly

3. People who treated me badly

4. Something I did to someone

5. Not doing something I should have done

6. Messes I need to clean up (literally and metaphorically)


7. Things I should throw away


8. Things I want to buy for my home

9. Things I want to buy for myself

10. Things I need but haven’t allowed myself to have

11. Projects I’ve started but have not finished

12. Projects I want to start

13. Things I want to change

14. Things I want to stop doing

15. Things I want to be

16. Things I want to have

17. Experiences I want to have

18. Things I want to say

19. Feelings I have not expressed

20. Secrets I don’t want to keep any longer

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Letting Go of the Past: Part 1

By Steve Axtell C.H.

People have a difficult time letting go of the past because they are held back by unfinished business. They may regret choices they have made or feel guilty about past actions. As long as guilt and regret are not resolved, it is difficult to move forward.

The Regret Epidemic

Regret is an emotion that feels similar to depression or sadness. It also feels like guilt, but it isn’t the same thing. Sometimes a wave of regret seems to come out of nowhere. You might become aware of it when you lose something or someone, or when you meet someone from your past. It is a common feeling in our culture for several reasons.

1. We have too many choices. Since we have so many options, there are many more opportunities to regret the paths we didn’t take.

Example: When Linda was a senior at a major university, she interviewed with over 30 companies on campus. She was offered jobs in five different cities and had a difficult time choosing. In the end, she moved to Los Angeles and began an executive training program in a large company. A few years later, she began to wonder whether she had made the wrong choice. She thought she might have been better off in Kansas City, which had been her second choice. The regret leaves her feeling stuck and dissatisfied.

2. Endless possibilities. Another factor causing many of us to feel regret is that in the American culture, there is a belief that life has no limits. Our culture has an insatiable appetite for new experiences, adventure, and newness. When faced with the reality that certain things will not work out or change, we find it hard to accept.

Example: Karen has turned 45. She has never married and has no children. She has always believed that “There is always tomorrow” and “I have plenty of time to make my mark.” But now, realizing that she may never be a mother and probably won’t be the CEO of her company, she is feeling like life has passed her by.

3. No rules. Along with all of these options, our lives have become confusing because there are few guidelines for what choices we should make.

Example: Most women who have children struggle with the choices of what role employment should play in their lives, and many women feel like they made the wrong choice. Options include staying home with the children, working full-time at a demanding profession, or choosing a less demanding or part-time job.

Example: Many people feel compelled to continue on the ladder of success as long as they are being rewarded for it. When work becomes demanding and is no longer fun, it is hard to turn down promotions and pay increases in favor of less demanding, more satisfying work. People feel locked in to their career tracks and don’t know how to get off the treadmill.

NEXT: Four More Reasons and What to Do About It. coming soon! And if you can't wait, give me a call: 303-250-5138. I'd be happy to talk with you!



 

 

Overcome Pain with Hypnosis

OVERCOME CHRONIC PAIN

Perhaps you have been told: “Well, we can’t find anything wrong”. You’ve been told or had it implied that it’s all in your head.
Or, perhaps you have a physical issue like arthritis, herniated disc, accident injury, etc., and have been told: “Well, that’s really all we can do, you’ll just have to live with it”.


Actually, the pain really is “all in your head”. You see, there is no pain until or unless a nerve signal is transmitted to the brain; and the brain interprets that signal as “pain”.


There is no pain until the brain receives a signal that it calls “pain”.

It really is all in your head.


BUT IT’S STILL REAL!!!


Back pain, neck pain, TMJ, headaches, pain that lingers after surgery, arthritis, sports injury, injury from an accident, fibromyalgia, IBS...there are so many kinds of pain, from many causes. It all hurts!

And you don't need it!


Chronic pain is pain that has outlived its usefulness—it’s yesterday’s news. It’s telling us about something that happened in the past that has been treated as well as it can be treated.  We don’t need to keep getting that message.


I teach people to re-train their brain to  interpret the “pain” signals differently. Then they can begin to live their life again. Sleeping better, able to do the things that they want to do and reducing or eliminating the pain medication. 


Living,...instead of hurting. 


You don’ t have to “just learn to live with it”. You can learn to overcome it!


Tens of thousands of people have learned to use self-hypnosis and the other techniques that I teach to improve the quality of their life.

Hypnosis for the management of chronic pain is endorsed by the American Medical Association (AMA), the National Institute of Health (NIH), and other major medical associations and research centers around the world.


Hypnosis is NOT a substitue for proper medical care.

Hypnosis and Weight Loss

Is hypnosis effective for permanent weight management?

Well, it has certainly worked for me! I'm Steve Axtell, Board Certified in Clinical Hypnotherapy, and over 15 years ago, I weighed 65 pounds more than I do now.

I took the weight off using hypnosis, and it has stayed off. And for many years now, I have been helping hundreds of other people to do the same.

Reasons why people gain weight

In my experience in working with all of these people, I have come to believe that there are only three primary reasons why people are overweight:

Reason #1: Using food to cope with emotions and feelings.


Reason #2: Bad habits of eating behaviors.

Reason #3: Medical issues that could involve hormone imbalances or deficiencies, the side effect of some medications, or other medical problems.


Hypnosis can be extremely powerful in dealing with Reasons #1 and #2.

These first two reasons account for the vast majority of the overweight problems that exist, and they usually go together.

Let's break it down...

Reason #1 Emotions and Feelings

We have been programmed to have a twisted relationship to food!

I believe that every living thing on Earth starts out with an instinctual knowledge of what the correct food is. As we look at animals in the wild, we see that they know exactly what to eat, how much to eat, and when to eat. Wild animals do not become obese, do not have diabetes, or suffer from degenerative diseases.

All forms of life on Earth understand that food is fuel. “Food is Fuel” is the primary program regarding food and eating behavior. All life holds this program at the deepest and most fundamental of levels.

Food is Fuel.



Humans, however, have out-smarted the perfect knowledge that we were born with...out-smarted the instinctual understanding about how to relate to food in healthy ways. From the day of our birth we begin to have the fundamental truth corrupted.



We have been programmed into a very unhealthy and unnatural relationship with food. Programmed by our parents, our teachers, our peers, radio, television billboards and pretty packages in the supermarket. Programmed by our culture.


The answer to this difficulty is to find a way to wipe out that faulty programming, and reprogram the mind back to that foundational program, "food is fuel".


Hypnotherapy is the best way that I have discoverd to accomplish this task. Stay tuned for more in future blogs. If you can't wait, give me a call. 303-250-5138. I would be delighted to talk with you.

 


NEXT: Reason #2, Bad Habits of Eating Behaviors. Coming soon.


 

Habit

HABIT

Who Am I?

I am your constant companion,
I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden.
I will push you onward or drag you down to failure.
I am completely at your command.
Half the things you do might just as well turn over to me,
And I will be able to do them quickly and correctly.
I am easily managed-
You must merely be firm with me.
Show me exactly how you want something done
And after a few lessons, I will do it automatically.
I am the servant of all great people;
And alas, of all failures as well.
Those who are great,
I have made great.
Those who are failures,
I have made failures.
I am not a machine,
Though I work with all the precision of a machine
Plus the intelligence of a human.
You may run me for a profit or run me for ruin-
It makes no difference to me.
Take me,
Train me,
Be firm with me,
And I will place the world
At your feet.
Be easy with me,
And I will destroy you.
Who am I? –I’m your habit!
Author Unknown